Today I received a call from my Mom we are not close at all so when I saw the missed call I was dreading phoning her back as it normally results in a fight. However I am trying to deal with issues instead of hiding (Which I do to a fine art.) So I called her right back.
My Mom has finally found her birth family. Which I am over the moon for her. But with this comes the realization that my grandparents lied to all of us. My Moms adoption story was a lie.
I do realize that my Grandparents were very forward in their day as they told my mom and her brother that they were adopted it was never hidden from them. The problem was the stories they were told were all lies.
And I am devastated because the chances of us finding out why my mom was placed is minimal as both her Biological parents are gone. She however does have a sister, but she wasn't told about the adoption. So this has had a huge impact on My mom's sister as well as my mom.
I am still in shock but incredibly angry that my grandparents lied maybe because I understand the implications more than most. I have tried to make sense of it but I cant at the moment.
I know they never thought that the truth would come out. but the one thing I can say I have learnt is that the Truth always has a way of coming out even 60 years down the line.
All I want to say is be honest with you children today. because the lies will affect everyone including generations to come.